How to be Smarter: If you don't have a wedding planner, you (and your bride) should assign someone "details duty" so you two can enjoy your day. This should not be your best man or one of the ushers as they have other duties already. This is the person who takes care of locating the missing jacket at coat check, makes sure Grandma gets to the church on time, etc. Your only real obligations for that day are to greet everyone that comes personally, either by making the rounds at dinner or finding another time during desert, and being in the right place at the right time (ie., the end of the aisle when the music starts).
For the Bride:
How to be Smarter: There is a renewed emphasis on weddings being big, exciting events, with all the trappings of privilege. But at the end of the day, everyone you invite just wants to feel like they are special enough to be part of one of the most important days of your life. It is not about doing the dance moves to your choreographed dance perfectly, or having the perfect table settings and food; it is about being so much in love that everyone who attends knows this is a genuine, heartfelt event that they are lucky to attend. To that note, be sure to reach out and talk to each of your guests, no matter how big the wedding is--as the bride, you are the star of the show and everyone wants to feel special to the star. **
For the Bridal Party:
How to be Smarter: RSVP as soon as possible, with your food choice and if you are bringing a date, if appropriate.